9 Ways to Help Someone With Depression

Did you know that over 280 million people across the world struggle with depression or depressive symptoms? Although it is so prevalent, the taboo around depression still exists. Many people do not know how to ask for help when depressed, or they fear the judgement that might ensue if they share their struggles. Here is where family and friends can come in, not to solve everything, but to be a stable source of understanding,encouragement, and support. 

Providing support is primarily about being there, maintaining patience, and letting the person struggling know that they are not alone. To understand how to help someone with depression in practical ways, here are nine ways that can really make a difference.

1. Listen Without Judgment

A listening ear is often more powerful than advice. People struggling with depression might already feel misunderstood. By listening and not immediately responding, you are letting them take time to figure out how they feel and process their emotions. Even simple acknowledgments like “I hear you” can bring comfort. 

2. Encourage Professional Support

Friends and family can only offer some tools and strategies, but they may not have the capacity to provide professional or suitable support. Guiding the person in need to seek professional support through therapy can put them on the path to recovery. Clinics and private practices such as

Lavender Psychotherapy provide a secure environment in which one can speak freely and acquire more positive coping methods. Motivate your loved one by telling them that it is not only helpful but brave to seek professional help.

3. Normalize How to Ask for Help When Depressed

Many people don’t know how to ask for help when they struggle with depression, which makes reaching out even harder. They can fear that they are a burden or have trouble expressing feelings in words. You can simplify it by providing easy sentences they can use, like:

• I am not feeling good today. Can we talk?

• I do not want solutions; I need someone to listen to me.

• Would you help me search for support?

Normalizing these statements empowers them to express their needs without guilt or hesitation.

4. Respect Their Boundaries

The important thing is to be respectful in giving support. At times, they might not be prepared to talk or engage in any activity. In this case it is crucial to respect their boundaries. Respecting their boundaries demonstrates your respect for their comfort and trust to share when they are ready.

5. Offer Practical Help

Depression may lead to difficulties with doing day-to-day things. Practical assistance can relieve their daily burden. Consider

• Cooking a dinner

• Assisting in household roles

• A supportive text

• Accompanying them to an appointment

Such acts might not be big, but they can make you feel relieved and connected.

6. Learn About Depression

Knowing what depression is will help you to react empathically. It is not mere sadness that thoughts, energy, and even physical wellness are affected. To be more aware of the effects of emotions on well-being, you may read some resources like The Window of Tolerance: A Pathway to Emotional Regulation.

7. Be Patient With Their Journey

Depression does not get cured in one night. This can occur gradually and with a few hiccups. Your patience sends the message that you are not just there when things are good. Avoid remarks that make them feel they need to be cheerful or to feel better soon. Rather, encourage them that it is a process of healing. Remember: healing isn’t linear! 

8. Recommend Mindfulness Habits

Mindfulness and meditation can bring calmness and reduce stress. They are not cures, but they equip us with helpful emotional regulation tools. You are free to introduce such practices as breathing exercises or short walks. To learn more about these strategies, read our article on Mindfulness vs. Meditation: The subtle difference. 

9. Remain Constant in Your Help

Consistency matters more than grand gestures. Depression often leads individuals to believe they are a burden, and regular check-ins can gently challenge that belief. Whether through a brief message, a phone call, or simply showing up, consistent support is a powerful reminder that they are valued and appreciated.

Conclusion 

Supporting someone with depression requires patience, understanding, and encouragement. Most importantly, it’s about guiding them to recognize how to ask for help when depressed, without fear or shame. You can be a major facilitator in their path to recovery by providing understanding and referring them to trusted services such as Lavender Psychotherapy.

FAQs

1. How do I know if someone has depression?

Look out for signs like persistent sadness, loss of interest in activities, changes in sleep or appetite, low energy, and withdrawal from friends or family. If these symptoms last for more than two weeks, we recommend speaking with your family doctor.

2. What should I avoid saying to someone with depression?

Avoid phrases like “snap out of it,” “everyone feels sad sometimes,” or “it’s all in your head.” These can feel dismissive. Instead, use empathetic statements like “I’m here for you” or “I can see this is really hard for you.”

3. What if they refuse help?

It’s common for people with depression to resist seeking help. Continue showing empathy and patience, and let them know you’re available when they’re ready. Avoid pressuring them, as this may increase withdrawal.

4. How do I support someone in crisis or if they talk about suicide?

Take it seriously. Stay calm, listen, and encourage them to talk. If you believe they are in immediate danger, don’t leave them alone and call emergency services (911). Encourage them to reach out to a crisis hotline, such as 988, or a mental health professional.