What is EMDR therapy and how does it work?

Emotional distress is something most of us experience at different points in our lives. It can show up through anxiety, depression, grief, anger, low self-esteem, or the effects of trauma. People often find different ways to cope, whether through avoidance, strained relationships, substances, negative self talk, over-working, or isolation. While these strategies may offer temporary relief, our bodies continue to hold on to the pain of past experiences, reflecting the idea that "the body keeps the score." Over time, these unresolved experiences resurface and influence how we see ourselves, how we connect with others, and how we move through the world.

At Lavender Psychotherapy, we understand that sometimes coping alone is not enough. For many people, deeper work is needed to process what the body and mind are carrying. That is where Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) can help.

What is EMDR Therapy?

EMDR is a research-backed therapy that helps people heal from painful or traumatic experiences. While often associated with PTSD, EMDR is also effective for:

• Self-esteem struggles

• Single-event or complex trauma

• Anxiety and panic

• Depression

• Anger and emotional regulation

• Grief and loss

• Stress and relational challenges

During EMDR, clients are guided to recall difficult experiences while engaging in bilateral stimulation such as eye movements or tapping. This process allows the brain to reprocess these memories in a way that reduces their emotional charge, making space for new, healthier patterns.

Why Rapport Matters

EMDR typically does not begin in the first session. Building rapport and safety in the therapeutic relationship is crucial. Once trust has been established and EMDR is identified as a good fit, the process begins with EMDR resources and history-taking phases before moving into deeper reprocessing work.

How does EMDR work in the brain?

The amygdala, a small almond-shaped part of the brain, regulates our emotions and activates the fight-or-flight response. When we recall distressing memories, the amygdala can become overstimulated, leaving us feeling overwhelmed and disconnected from rational thought.

EMDR uses bilateral stimulation to calm the nervous system and create new neural pathways, allowing the brain to process trauma in a healthier and more adaptive way.

The 8 Phases of EMDR Therapy

EMDR therapy is a structured process consisting of eight phases:

1. History and Treatment Planning The therapist gathers background information, symptoms, and goals to shape a personalized treatment plan.

2. Preparation You will learn how EMDR works and practice coping strategies to ensure you feel safe and supported.

3. Assessment Specific memories and the beliefs connected to them are identified, along with the positive beliefs you would like to build.

4. Desensitization You focus on the memory while engaging in bilateral stimulation, which reduces the emotional intensity.

5. Installation Positive, adaptive beliefs are strengthened to replace negative ones.

6. Body Scan You check for any lingering physical sensations tied to the memory to ensure both mind and body are processing the experience.

7. Closure Each session ends with grounding techniques so you leave feeling stable and safe.

8. Reevaluation At the start of the next session, progress is reviewed, new insights are integrated, and the treatment plan is adjusted if needed.

Safety in EMDR

Safety is at the heart of EMDR therapy. Because strong emotions may surface, your therapist will ensure you have the tools and support to manage them and will move at a pace that feels right for you.

Beyond the Past: The EMDR Future Template

EMDR does not just address past experiences. The Future Template helps clients mentally rehearse facing future situations with calm and confidence. This can be particularly helpful for challenges such as:

• Flying on a plane

• Driving after an accident

• Entering social situations with confidence

• Facing work presentations or exams

By strengthening adaptive responses, EMDR equips clients to handle future challenges with resilience.

How long does it take EMDR to work?

The length of EMDR therapy varies depending on each person’s history and needs. Some people notice shifts within a few sessions, while more complex cases may take longer. 

Conclusion: Finding an EMDR Therapist

At Lavender Psychotherapy, our trained therapists offer EMDR as part of a safe and supportive therapeutic process. Whether you are navigating trauma, anxiety, depression, grief, or self-esteem challenges, EMDR provides a pathway toward lasting healing.

If you are ready to take the first step, we invite you to book a consultation with one of our therapists at Lavender Psychotherapy and explore how EMDR can support your journey.

Curious about how EMDR might support you? Visit the ‘Get Matched’ section of our website or email us today to connect with an EMDR therapist and explore whether EMDR is the right fit for you.

FAQs

Is EMDR therapy safe for everyone?

EMDR is generally considered safe when conducted by an EMDRIA trained therapist. However, it may not be suitable for everyone. Your therapist will review your mental health history to determine if EMDR is an appropriate approach for you.

How many EMDR sessions will I need?

The number of sessions depends on your personal history, the complexity of your experiences, and your therapy goals. Some clients notice positive changes after several sessions, while others may benefit from a longer course of treatment.

What should I expect during an EMDR session?

During an EMDR session, your therapist will guide you in recalling distressing memories while using specific eye movements or other forms of bilateral stimulation. This process helps your brain reprocess these experiences, reducing their emotional intensity and promoting healing.